Emotional abuse hurts everyone
Luis Huerta
Issue date: 10/23/09 Section: Opinion
In a recent conversation with friends I noticed that the similarity in their lives upbringings was marked with episodes of violence. Speaking with them made me realize that the abuse they received from their father or father figure helped them get on their feet but deep within them they hold a grudge against their father, or father figure.
A grudge that stands in the way of healing their relationship. These victims have to accept the abuse as their relatives gave as way of releasing their stress or reacting to the choices their daughters have made.
In one case a friend explained how her father constantly heckling her mother affects her emotionally, she mentions that she also is heckled by her father and the scenario ends in an altercation. Another friend explained how her father feels the need to rely on physical abuse to release his negativity towards the guy that she dates.
Even though they have found ways to "look the other way" the resentment towards their father in this case can create hostility in their lives.
Both friends explained that it is hard for them to forgive their father for their actions and that they would not be surprised to see their father react the same way again. Their story brings about the notion that this type of abuse could be repetitive among many college women who go through the same or worse scenarios and might feel that there is nothing they can do to stop their relatives from lashing out at them through many forms of abuse.
While parents are entitled to raise their children their own way, when any type of abuse becomes repetitive in any relationship it creates hostility and emotional problems for the individuals who are abused.
One thing that is clear is that every person no matter if it is a man, woman, gay, straight, or anyone should not see abuse from their relatives or peers as an ally in their lives and choose to live as if nothing is happening.
Instead people can take an initiative by seeking help from a counselor, contact a professional organization or a join support group. Doing this can help individuals build stronger relationships with their relatives and peers which creates a step towards preventing more families from separating.
A grudge that stands in the way of healing their relationship. These victims have to accept the abuse as their relatives gave as way of releasing their stress or reacting to the choices their daughters have made.
In one case a friend explained how her father constantly heckling her mother affects her emotionally, she mentions that she also is heckled by her father and the scenario ends in an altercation. Another friend explained how her father feels the need to rely on physical abuse to release his negativity towards the guy that she dates.
Even though they have found ways to "look the other way" the resentment towards their father in this case can create hostility in their lives.
Both friends explained that it is hard for them to forgive their father for their actions and that they would not be surprised to see their father react the same way again. Their story brings about the notion that this type of abuse could be repetitive among many college women who go through the same or worse scenarios and might feel that there is nothing they can do to stop their relatives from lashing out at them through many forms of abuse.
While parents are entitled to raise their children their own way, when any type of abuse becomes repetitive in any relationship it creates hostility and emotional problems for the individuals who are abused.
One thing that is clear is that every person no matter if it is a man, woman, gay, straight, or anyone should not see abuse from their relatives or peers as an ally in their lives and choose to live as if nothing is happening.
Instead people can take an initiative by seeking help from a counselor, contact a professional organization or a join support group. Doing this can help individuals build stronger relationships with their relatives and peers which creates a step towards preventing more families from separating.
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